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Getting to the Altar – Without Losing Your Mind

Planning a Wedding Can Be a Challenge…

Everyone has different ideas about makes a perfect service, who should be invited, and what the wedding party should wear, and even how to say vows.

Cut down on pre-wedding stress with these books and DVDs  – they’ll help structure your planning, and provide a laugh when you need to escape:


Emily Post’s Weddings
by Peggy Post

Today’s weddings are more complicated than ever, with new traditions replacing old, and new relationships to consider as family life grows more complex. In this new edition, Peggy provides sensible solutions to wedding questions old and new, showing how to manage the big decisions and the little details with tact, consideration and confidence–– leaving you free to enjoy all of the happy times along the way!


A Gentleman Walks Down the Aisle
by John Bridges and Bryan Curtis

He may not have been dreaming of this magical day since childhood, but a groom’s role in his wedding is as important as his bride’s. This guide will shape even the most baffled groom into a well-mannered gentleman, from engagement party to reception and every blessed event in between.



Words for the Wedding: Creative Ideas for Personalize Your Vows, Toasts, Invitations and More
by Wendy Paris and Andrew Chesler

Covering everything from invitations and wedding websites to readings, programs, party favors, and more, Words for the Wedding presents hundreds of classic and contemporary poems, quotes, quips, and blessings-from the Buddha to Bono-along with advice on how to use them most memorably.



The Essential Guide to Gay & Lesbian Weddings
by Tess Ayers and Paul Brown

The latest in wedding etiquette, witty anecdotes and unexpected historical trivia, make this an indispensable and truly entertaining resource for same-sex couples who want to plan an unforgettable and perfectly orchestrated wedding. It leads you through topics from the philosophical to the practical, and answers the tough questions.



Ex-Etiquette for Weddings: The Blended Families’ Guide to Tying the Knot
by Jann Blackstone-Ford and Sharyl Jupe

Authors Jann Blackstone-Ford, a certified divorce and stepfamily mediator, and Sharyl Jupe, her husband’s first wife, know firsthand how to make a blended family wedding a joyous affair. Encore brides and couples with divorced parents will find helpful advice in this sophisticated, up-to-date wedding guide and etiquette primer.



Made of Honor
DVD [2008]

Tom and Hannah have been platonic friends for over ten years. He’s a serial dater, while she wants marriage but hasn’t found Mr. Right. Just as Tom is starting to think that he has fallen in love with Hannah and is real relationship material for her, she tells him that she is engaged. When she asks Tom to be her ‘maid’ of honor, he reluctantly agrees just so he can attempt to stop the wedding and woo her.

Showing June 25 at the Columbia Pike Branch Library.


The Wedding
by Dorothy West

The story of life in the Oval, a proud, insular community on Martha’s Vineyard made up of the best and brightest of the East Coast’s black bourgeoisie. Shelby, loveliest daughter of the prominent Coles family, could have chosen from “a whole area of eligible men of the right colors and the right professions.” Instead, she is about to be married to Meade Wyler, a white jazz musician from New York – sending shock waves through the Oval as members grapple with the changing face of their community.



Jumping the Broom
DVD [2011]

On a weekend wedding in Martha’s Vineyard, two African-American families from divergent socioeconomic backgrounds clash during their first meeting before the big event.



Seating Arrangements
by Maggie Shipstead

Maggie Shipstead’s irresistible social satire, set on an exclusive New England island over a wedding weekend in June, provides a deliciously biting glimpse into the lives of the well-bred and ill-behaved.




DVD [2011]

Annie’s life is a mess. But when she finds out her lifetime best friend is engaged, she simply must serve as Lillian’s maid of honor. Though lovelorn and broke, Annie bluffs her way through the expensive and bizarre rituals. With one chance to get it perfect, she’ll show Lillian and her bridesmaids just how far you’ll go for someone you love.

Showing June 11 at the Columbia Pike Branch Library.



The Wedding
by Imraan Coovadia

Set in India and South Africa, The Wedding joins Ismet Nassin, a clerk of modest prospects from Bombay, and the village beauty he marries on the very day he spies her from the window of his train. Matrimony happens fast, love lags behind. Khateja is willful, difficult, and misanthropic—in short, highly desirable. Ismet is in for the battle of his life. Based upon the story of his grandparents and his own upbringing in Durban, South Africa, Imraan Coovadia’s The Wedding is a brilliantly funny and tender first novel—an alternately poignant and hilarious story about the choices we make and the homes that we build.


Bride and Prejudice
DVD [2004]

Based on Jane Austen’s classic novel, Pride and Prejudice, with a Bollywood twist. In Ammritsar, the determined Mrs. Bakshi sets out to find matches for her four daughters. Second sister, Lalita, meets American Will Darcy – is it love?



27 dresses27 Dresses
DVD [2008]

After serving as a bridesmaid 27 times, a young woman wrestles with the idea of standing by her sister’s side as her sibling marries the man she’s secretly in love with. Kevin is a local newspaper reporter who spots Jane racing between two receptions – one in Manhattan and the other in Brooklyn. He quickly surmises that her quirky tale may be just the story to get him into the big leagues.

Showing June 18 at the Columbia Pike Branch Library.


Wedding Night : A novel
by Sophie Kinsella

Lottie just knows that her boyfriend is going to propose during lunch at one of London’s fanciest restaurants. But when his big question involves a trip abroad, not a trip down the aisle, she’s completely crushed. So when Ben, an old flame, calls her out of the blue and reminds Lottie of their pact to get married if they were both still single at thirty, she jumps at the chance. No formal dates—just a quick march to the altar and a honeymoon on Ikonos, the sun-drenched Greek island where they first met years ago.



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  1. Annie says:

    Please correct the title “Getting to the Altar – Without Loosing Your Mind”. It’s ‘losing’, not ‘loosing’.

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